Disappointment is a tricky emotion to deal with because every day can bring about new situations to be disappointed over.
Sometimes disappointments come at rapid speed, sometimes disappointments are truly huge and life changing. Then there are those that are small, annoying or simply just make you cringe.
Meanwhile, difficult times around the world add to our daily stressors and can heighten your reaction to negative news.
Here are some keys to improving one’s ability to cope and bounce back quickly from the disappointments and frustrations that are a part of our everyday lives:
Take a moment to wallow
You may find your sense of calm more easily if you allow yourself not to be calm for the initial shock of disappointment. When you get bad news, take a moment to let it sink in.
Do a reality check
After feeling the first blows of disappointment, step back and assess. It can seem like the biggest, most horrible thing that could possibly happen but humans tend to dramatise too.
Go high when hit with low blow
Though we do not get to choose the situations about which we feel disappointed, we have a lot of choice regarding how we respond to disappointment.
It’s important to head disappointment up at the past before things turn to into irritation, anger, resentment, jealousy, or bitterness.
Avoid anxious reactions
Find a sweet spot for fast anxiety relief, such as meditating, walking, listening to music, taking a long bath or watching a comedy.
Your general state of stress and anxiety can add an extra layer of sensitivity and make you more prone to agitation.
Don’t take people’s reactions and opinions to heart
Differing points of view are not, in themselves, insults. Some people feel attacked when someone disagrees with them or implies that they have done something wrong.
Be open to new ideas and facts.
Write down your distress
This can help get it out of your system. One way to cope with disappointment is by writing your feelings.
Journaling is a good way to start because it can help you express concerns and emotions about your disappointment in a non-threatening way.
Develop positive thinking muscles
When we get stuck focusing on bad news, we lose sight of what is right in our lives and the world around us. Focus on the positives in your life.
Breathe your way to a clear mind
Breathing can literally help increase feelings of wellbeing and peace.
Remember, while we cannot always control the disappointments that come our way, we can seek to alleviate and counteract their impact on our daily lives.
Limit others from dumping their disappointments
While sharing and being heard is important, try to stay clear from people who make a big deal out of everything that goes wrong.
Let negative news go in one ear and out the other.